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about 1000 days of daring greatly

"1000 days of Daring Greatly" is a personal project by Yummii

The project is based on the book; "Daring Greatly" by Brene Brown

For 1000 days, Yummii has set out to take action and be in the arena of her life. She is to discover the realm of Daring Greatly.

Her journey is about discovering courage, vulnerability, and ultimately, mastering the art of living wholeheartedly - and being wholehearted.

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Wednesday
Jan182017

Day 285: Daring to be curious

We are in Luang Prabang - We are staying in a glorious hotel with a view of the mountains and the town.

Our room has a private terrace that overlooks the mountain range. Throughout the day I can hear the birds chirping, experience the butterflies dancing, and the gentle kiss of mother nature's breathe throughout our room.

It is divine. It is bliss.

I'm sitting on our day bed in our room, looking out at the majestic blue sky and the glow of the sun - This was where I chose to meditate. The setting was majestic. 

It is one of those scenes that creates a song in your heart and your soul is nourished. It is a feeling of "home". A place of safety, comfort, and love.

Earlier this morning I was annoyed with a certain circumstance with family from back home. I felt tense. My being was consumed with righteousness and judgement. I could feel the physical sensations of the muscles contracting, my breathing was shallow and heavy, and my energy was stagnant. I was in "fight" mode. 

I closed my eyes and started meditating. The strained feelings and my subjective opinions about what happened this morning kept gliding through my mind. The thoughts would go in and out. I was observing my breathing, observing these thoughts. The majestic setting that I was so grateful to be witnessing was not in my consciousness. For 25 minutes, my consciousness was swaying between mindful breathing and mindless thoughts on being righteous and judgmental. The latter was dominant.

My mind kept replaying the scenario, then I would catch myself and go back to breathe. Then the thoughts would make their way back to the forefront of my mind... They would play for a while then I catch myself and go back to breathe.

As I heard the bell chime to signal the end of the meditation, I opened my eyes to the serene and blissful setting. 

The irony I thought. This was a clear demonstration and example of not being present. 

I took a deep breathe and a calmness swept over me. 

I remembered one of the Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz - "Don't take things personal". Nothing people say or do is because of you - they are living in their own reality. It is never personal and it is their truth.

I started getting curious about the other person's point of view. How they were feeling. What life would have been like for them. What the experience of the circumstance may have been. I did the best I could to empathise with their reality.

The curiosity dissolved the hold on my being caused by my own experience of righteousness and judgement. 

When righteousness and judgement kicks in, we are no longer whole. Wholeness is love. Wholeness is understanding. Wholeness is compassion. In wholeness, there is unity and connection.

Righteousness and judgement disconnects. It separates our mind and our heart. The fight mode within us kicks in. 

Curiosity allows us to rekindle that connection - to see the humanity that is in all of us. To be curious is to be open. To be curious creates a space of new understanding and new insights. Curiosity expands our hearts.

Curiosity requires us to let go of our existing beliefs - this liberates us from the chains of our closed minds. 

The endeavour to be curious allowed me to experience wholeness again. No longer needing to be right and making the other person wrong, or needing validation that my feelings of righteousness and judgement were warranted.

I could sit in the space of "what is" and accept the circumstance with peace and compassion. For both of us.