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about 1000 days of daring greatly

"1000 days of Daring Greatly" is a personal project by Yummii

The project is based on the book; "Daring Greatly" by Brene Brown

For 1000 days, Yummii has set out to take action and be in the arena of her life. She is to discover the realm of Daring Greatly.

Her journey is about discovering courage, vulnerability, and ultimately, mastering the art of living wholeheartedly - and being wholehearted.

Entries in Dr Wayne Dwyer (3)

Saturday
May062017

Day 295: Daring to change the way I see things

"If you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change." - Dr Wayne Dyer

The above quote from Dr Wayne Dyer reminds me that there is no absolute reality - and that we have the power to change our perceptions so that it can empower us.

At times, this can be challenging. It is much more comfortable to hold onto an existing thought than be willing to get interested in another point of view. To let go of what we hold as "the truth" is to allow ourselves to be vulnerable. 

However, the better we practice empathy, the more curious we get on taking on another's reality, the more wholehearted our relationships will be. 

According to the Dictionary of Obsure Sorrows; "Sonder" captures this experience of reality, thoughts, and perceptions beautifully. 

Sonder;-
You are the main character—the protagonist—the star at the center of your own unfolding story. You're surrounded by your supporting cast: friends and family hanging in your immediate orbit. Scattered a little further out, a network of acquaintances who drift in and out of contact over the years.
But there in the background, faint and out of focus, are the extras.The random passersby. Each living a life as vivid and complex as your own. 
They carry on invisibly around you, bearing the accumulated weight of their own ambitions, friends, routines, mistakes, worries, triumphs and inherited craziness.
When your life moves on to the next scene, theirs flickers in place, wrapped in a cloud of backstory and inside jokes and characters strung together with countless other stories you'll never be able to see. That you'll never know exists. 
In which you might appear only once. As an extra sipping coffee in the background. As a blur of traffic passing on the highway. As a lighted window at dusk."

We are the protagonist of our own story and at the same time, we are the supporting characters and extra's in another.

This context reminds us that everyone's reality is validated... and that they are doing the best with what they know. That we are doing the best with what we know.

In living wholeheartedly; we are mindful and gracious to everyone's journey. 

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In a conversation with a close friend, I shared about a challenging relationship that I was facing. The ego in me was probably looking for agreement and support to build on my case; and I'm sure I wanted to be "right". 

My heart knew that there is more to the story - my mind, well it wanted to be safe, to be right, and to disconnect. 

My wise friend asked me the questions that mattered; the questions that got me thinking from the other's perspective; the questions that forced me to dig deep and do my best to be in the other person's position.

It was uncomfortable - Uncomfortable because I had to let go of the attachment to my truth and create the space in my mind that there may be another version of reality which holds the same validity.

However, in creating the space for understanding, there is an opportunity for healing, for connection, and for bridging the gap.

I truly believe that every human being wants to give love, be loved, and feel connected. We all want the same thing.

And there are barriers to our expression - Inherited realities; misfortunes that left has battered and bruised; or a sense of loneliness that we just can't seem to overcome. We all have a set of beliefs that can empower or hinder us in our choices and actions.

The conversation was humbling. Just when I thought maybe I'm getting the hang of this "wholehearted" living; it reminded me that it is a journey. I'm still learning. 

In order to master what it takes to live a wholehearted life, one must be willing to confront all that conflicts with our heart, all that dampens our spirit, and all that weakens our soul.

Wednesday
Feb152017

Day 286: Daring to let go 

I believe there is a part within all of us that calls for our greatness.

It is the part in our hearts and being that inspires us to expand. When we are tuned into this part of our being, we dream the big dreams, our imagination is exercised, and the vibrations of possibility run through our body.

This is who we truly are. Beacons of possibility. 

We were born with this insatiable desire to explore, be adventurers, be unstoppable, have this world be our playground for our imagination, and to believe that anything is possible.

"What the mind can conceive and believe, it can achieve" - Napolean Hill.

The quote has a new meaning to me.

I am currently re-reading Wishes Fulfilled authored by the late Dr Wayne Dyer; one whom I consider a mentor. 

I am on a chapter that shares an idea about our own self-concept. Our own self-concept; our self-concept about our physical abilities and our inner beliefs have bought us to where we are right in this moment.

We are bounded by our own limiting beliefs and truths that we have created. 

In order to be attuned and aligned to the part of us that calls for our greatness, we have to be willing and open to letting go.

Letting go of our own beliefs. Letting go of our own truths. Letting go of the stories that we have created and played out.

Letting go of our past. Letting go of what we think we are capable or not capable of. 

Letting go of these truths is scary as they have been the parameters in which we have operated as habit. They have kept us feeling "safe" and removed "unpredictability". Irrespective of whether reality is what we want or not; or whether the outcomes are in our favour or not, our minds role is to keep us safe and within our own habits.

When we dare to have inspiring thoughts and imagine the kind of life that would nourish us, the next step is to believe that this is possible. This takes courage.

In order to believe what we have imagined, we have to be willing to shatter the our own story of our created self-concept. 

We have to be willing to dig deep, discover the created 'truths' that we have imposed on our souls, and create a space within our hearts to have faith in that part of us that is connected to expanding and hungry for 'living'. Not existing, 'living'.

I am excited to challenge and let-go of my existing self-concept. 

To dare greatly, is to peel the layers that are barriers to living wholeheartedly. 

Wednesday
May072014

day 68: daring to be ready

A year ago my mentor recommended a book for me to read; "Ask and it is Given" by Esther and Jerry Hicks. 

At that moment in time, I had other things on my mind and wasn't open to their teachings, and my consciousness wasn't ready to hear what they had to share, their philosophies and their wisdom.

Today, I came across a YouTube video between Dr Wayne Dwyer and Esther Hicks. I made time to watch it.

As I watched it, I found myself engaged, connected and wanting more. There was also a sense that this video found it's way to me.

It was as though the universe has led me to this point in time and is saying; "Yes, you are now ready to be open to a new dimension of self-awareness and learning".

I love that the teacher always shows up with the student is ready.

What a beautiful occurrence of synchrodestiny, as Deepak Chopra would say. 

I don't believe in coincidences and I believe that when one surrenders their expectation and the need for control, remarkable lessons and gifts are entered into one's space, effortlessly.

It is in the moments that I don't have the courage to be vulnerable and thus, I rely on my monkey brain to make choices that I would find myself in an experience of life that takes effort, is straining and far from blissful. 

In this journey of discovering what it takes to live a wholehearted existence, one of the area's of life that I have been exploring and embracing is my spirituality. Instead of shying away and denying myself the joy that it brings me, I'm learning to have the courage to embrace it, welcome it into my life and be proud. 

For my entire life, even when I was 3 years old, I could always remember believing in something bigger than me, believing that there is a bigger purpose out there and believing that I'm looked after. 

It is liberating to have the capacity within myself to openly share about it, live it and breathe it. 

Today, was a milestone in that journey. 

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What is there for you to learn? Are you ready for your teacher to show up?